Today is celebrated as Valentine’s day in every part of the world. You may know already it is always brainwashed or associated with the day that only for the romance love story shared by a couple. You may see it from commercial perspective today is always associated with husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend kind of relationship. You will definitely see so many couples face in ads across media channels or your social medias during the day (or prior to this day) and it’s totally fine as we also get the love by seeing it.
As you also may know, brands use this perspective as their added value for the campaign to their products so their product sales can be accelerated on this day. It’s categorized as one of the strategy marketings for them to boost the sales by riding the wave.
But what do you think for people like me? The single one. The one that is always struggling to find partner. The people that are either put the standard so high or simply no one likes them (haha). Statistically, the people like me is still majority in numbers compare with couples. What kind of value brands can bring for people like me? Thinking about it, I think brand also should consider my people as their target market too right to buy their product with the little twist of perspective for Valentine’s day.
Talking about it, mostly in my life I have been spending my time alone on Valentine’s day simply because I’m mostly available. I also want to participate but I can’t really do anything. I want to buy chocolate. Send loves. Give hugs to the ones I care the most. Ones. Not one. Correct. It means I want to participate to celebrate the V-day with the people that I care — anything, could be family, close friends, or even strangers I have just met and feel connected and warm. For me, doing thing like this is not only to symbolize for V-day but it is way more than that, it’s for me to share my feeling that I can’t share. The feeling of connection. So I can be never feel lonely in this world.
This year after the New Years Eve, I prayed a lot that in 2022 I at least need to feel connected with other human — or significant other. I prayed that I could get a sign for pathways to meet the one that we could share anything without being judged, that we can discuss anything to share our thoughts, that we both can feel warm by their existence. So we can never feel alone in this world.
Funnily, I think I have made some good karmas in 2021, a few days after, God is literally showing me the way, it’s like the law of attraction, I’ve put the energy to always keep in my I will meet person soon, and all of sudden the universe conspires to make my it happen in my life. It’s on a just regular Saturday after I’ve done my workout — I suddenly think need to open the dating app that I have pretty much haven’t touched yet like forever just randomly to check and see what’s going on. I don’t know why since the morning I already had that thought out of nowhere that I need to always keep an eye on the app — thank God I did. I think after like a couple of hours exploring on the app I randomly said hi to a stranger that suddenly pop up in my screen. It was really fast — I guess after a few words, we both decided to meet for talk. We met.
We talked a lot — literally like two old friends that haven’t met up for years. I feel the connection. I feel the energy. I feel the vibe. It’s pretty much weird and only once in a blue moon this happen to me to easily feel connected heart to heart with a total stranger. We had the romance but after some long yet memorable discussion we both also feel that we are afraid if we continue it further as falling in love is always led to the feeling to selfishness to fully own the person we love. It’s true. I only had one relationship in my life, I was deeply in love. I was very selfish and it led to a breakup. I wasn’t ready yet at that time. Because I felt I own that love. And it took months for me to move on.
The moment I feel ready to start a new journey. That’s the moment I met that stranger. Let’s call this stranger as “X”.
When I thought I wouldn’t ever meet again with X, it’s totally wrong. Up until now, we are still talking and discuss random thing. We together have the pillow talk about anything. About things thatI couldn’t even share to my family and my close friends. Literally about anything: previous life concept, after life concepts, dreams, friendships, people, universe but I feel so thankful that we are pretty much connected and share opinions about it. I feel that excitement and happiness that I couldn’t even describe in a word. This is not a romance story. It’s way deeper than that. Literally deeper than that that I even didn’t that such things in my ex relationship.
At first, I thought I was in love — well you can also say it’s a rainy season fling (haha because simply I met X in a tropical island but it was a rainy season that we were literally stuck at the room and only order the food online) but it wasn’t. It wasn’t a love. It is the thing that I couldn’t even describe it. Because this is my first time feeling this.
The feeling that is not being left. The feeling that being appreciated. The feeling that being valued as a human.
Surprisingly, I don’t feel awkward. I can be myself. This kind of relationship is way deeper than friendship and love. That for me it can’t be found in any type mainstream relationship. No romance involved. It’s just only the connection between two individuals.
Though I can’t categorized this yet, but I feel today is the right time for me to share my thoughts as to symbolize that I’m very thankful with this type of relationship.
It’s maybe like “syntax error” thing for the programmers. We might be categorized as the syntax error.
I really wish I could be forever feel like this no matter what’s going to happen next pages in our lives. We still can be friends, soul mate or whatever it is called. Everything in this world is a result or consequence of one’s actions. If something is bound to happen, we can delay it but we cannot avoid it. It will happen, maybe late than expected, but it will.
As I am already happy in this stage. I don’t need to expect anything else more than this. Happy V-day! And thank God for listening my wish.
Plot Twist: After some talks and discussion, we realized that we might have a chance to meet before in other part of the world as strangers passed by. As simply we found the evidence that we visit the same country, same city, same intersection at the same timing. Isn’t this weird?
